Matthew 15.21-28

Have you ever been ignored?
Have you ever spoken your opinion or asked a question only to be left hanging without a response or an answer?
Well, if you are a parent, I know the answer is a resounding, “YES!”
When our boys are playing video games or watching TV, it is as if they have been transported out of the house into a different dimension where they exist all alone.
It has come to the point that if I ask them a question or tell them something when they are playing video games or watching TV, I have to immediately follow it up with the question, “Did you hear me?”
And sometimes, I have to ask that question, “Did you hear me?,” several times before I get a response.
A story is told about a married couple that had a quarrel and ended up giving each other the silent treatment.
A week into their mute argument, the man realized he needed his wife’s help. In order to catch a flight to Chicago for a business meeting, he had to get up at 5 a.m.
Not wanting to be the first to break the silence, he wrote on a piece of paper, “Please wake me at 5 a.m.”
The next morning the man woke up only to discover his wife was already out of bed, it was 9 a.m., and his flight had long since departed. He was about to find his wife and demand an answer for her failings when he noticed a piece of paper by the bed.
The note read, “It’s 5 a.m. Wake up.”
There is something uneasy about silence. And that can be clearly seen in the fact that we consider silence a punishment.
If we are angry, we will give the victim of our sinful anger the dreaded “silent treatment.”
When a child misbehaves we send them into the corner to sit by themselves with no one to talk to and nothing to play with.
When no voices are speaking we call that time “awkward silence.”
In this morning’s text, we hear a story about a woman in need of help going to Jesus. After asking her question, she is met with an awkward silence when Jesus doesn’t respond to her.
Let’s hear what the Gospel of Matthew tells us happened in this strange encounter:
Matthew 15:21–28 tells us this:
[21] And Jesus went away from there and withdrew to the district of Tyre and Sidon. [22] And behold, a Canaanite woman from that region came out and was crying, “Have mercy on me, O Lord, Son of David; my daughter is severely oppressed by a demon.” [23] But he did not answer her a word. And his disciples came and begged him, saying, “Send her away, for she is crying out after us.” [24] He answered, “I was sent only to the lost sheep of the house of Israel.” [25] But she came and knelt before him, saying, “Lord, help me.” [26] And he answered, “It is not right to take the children’s bread and throw it to the dogs.” [27] She said, “Yes, Lord, yet even the dogs eat the crumbs that fall from their masters’ table.” [28] Then Jesus answered her, “O woman, great is your faith! Be it done for you as you desire.” And her daughter was healed instantly. (ESV)
How would you feel if God ignored you?
How would you feel if those that believed in God didn’t want to deal with you and wanted to get rid of you?
How would you feel if God said that what you wanted wasn’t in His plan for your life?
How would you feel if God said that doing good to you wasn’t part of His itinerary?
Well, these are the exact questions that the woman in our passage this morning could answer from personal experience.
The woman had a great need.
Her daughter was ill. Specifically, her daughter was possessed by a demon. There was serious spiritual oppression in her house.
When the woman asks Jesus to help her by healing her daughter, Jesus is silent. It seems as if Jesus, God in the flesh, is ignoring her.
When the disciples, Jesus’ followers, saw the woman and her problems they didn’t want to deal with the mess and asked to send her away. The first response of Jesus’ followers to this woman and her difficult situation was to get rid of her.
When Jesus does eventually speak, he seems to tell the woman that he didn’t come into the world to help her in her moment of need and in fact doing good to her wasn’t part of God’s plan either.
If we were in this situation, we would be feeling agony and despair because of our sick child who we couldn’t help.
We would then be feeling hurt, like God was waving us away and showing favoritism to other people.
We would be questioning whether God hears cares about us.
Maybe you feel that way right now. Maybe you feel like God is ignoring you.
Maybe you feel right now that God’s people, the church, don’t want to be bothered with you and want to send you away — to get rid of you.
Maybe you feel right now that God doesn’t want to help you in your moment of need.
Maybe you feel right now that God doesn’t want what is best for you.
I think it is safe to say that we have all experienced these feelings and thought these thoughts at one point or another.
And, I can promise you that as a person of faith, you will continue to find yourself experiencing these feelings and thinking these thoughts in the future as you struggle with God’s promises and God’s timing.
But, interestingly, in our text for this morning, the Canaanite woman didn’t despair, she didn’t get depressed, and she didn’t give up!
What did she do that gave her strength to carry on even when Jesus’ words and actions didn’t make sense to her?
She trusted in the words of the reports that she heard about Jesus.
She believed Jesus was good.
She believed Jesus was gracious.
She believed Jesus was merciful.
She believed that Jesus was God’s Messiah — the Savior.
She believed that Jesus had the power to forgive sins and give righteousness and eternal life to those who had faith in him.
And, she didn’t let her immediate circumstances deter her from believing those truths.
Yes, everything Jesus and his people were doing and saying didn’t exactly line up with the words about Jesus that she heard and believed, but she knew that there must be some explanation for that. She also had confidence that the explanation for this seemingly strange behavior would further reveal that Jesus is both good and gracious.
And, the woman was right! By the end of her meeting with Jesus, it was revealed that Jesus was teaching her, the disciples, and the world that salvation, that forgiveness of sins is available to every last person. It wasn’t for one person, one genealogical line, one race, one ethnic group, or one gender (male or female).
As the apostle Paul tells Bishop Timothy in 1 Timothy 2.4,
“God, our Savior, desires all people to be saved to to come to the knowledge of the truth.”
The good news in our text this morning is that God is a dog person. Sorry, cat people!
It is good news that God is a dog person, because each one of us is a dirty unclean dog, like the gentile woman, in our sin. In sin, our thoughts, our words, and our deeds don’t line up with God’s rules for life and love. Our disobedience to God’s commands makes us unclean and unworthy to be with Him.
However, the good news comes because God doesn’t care if you’ve eaten your own vomit, ate his son’s homework or chewed up his favorite slipper.
Jesus will never leave you without a response or leave you hanging.
That is what the Word of God, the Bible promises us.
That is what we can believe because it is what we hear from God himself.
1 John 5.13 tells us that we can have assurance of our salvation and of God’s goodness and grace and mercy when we hear the words that say,
“I write these things (meaning the words of the Bible) to you who believe in the name of the Son of God that you may know that you have eternal life. And this is the confidence we have toward him, that if we ask anything according to his will (like the Canaanite woman did) he hears us. And if we know that he hears us in whatever we ask, we know that we have the requests that we ask for.”
God is still present in agony.
God is still present in rejection.
God is still present in awkward silence.
And, God is working all things out for good, for your good and the good of every other person, even through your painful and difficult moments.
God does not show favoritism or partiality.
Jesus died for the sins of the entire world.
In the New Testament book of James, we are commanded to not show partiality or reject someone based on our own created standards.
What this means is that we are commanded in our faith to be like Jesus in this morning’s text and not push people away or treat them differently because they are different than us.
We are to be impartial and show mercy to all people regardless of things like socio-economic status or ethnicity because in the words of today’s text, Jesus is impartial and died to save the whole word—every last dirty dog included.
Here are James’ words:
James 2:1–8
[1] My brothers, show no partiality as you hold the faith in our Lord Jesus Christ, the Lord of glory. [2] For if a man wearing a gold ring and fine clothing comes into your assembly, and a poor man in shabby clothing also comes in, [3] and if you pay attention to the one who wears the fine clothing and say, “You sit here in a good place,” while you say to the poor man, “You stand over there,” or, “Sit down at my feet,” [4] have you not then made distinctions among yourselves and become judges with evil thoughts? [5] Listen, my beloved brothers, has not God chosen those who are poor in the world to be rich in faith and heirs of the kingdom, which he has promised to those who love him? [6] But you have dishonored the poor man. Are not the rich the ones who oppress you, and the ones who drag you into court? [7] Are they not the ones who blaspheme the honorable name by which you were called?
[8] If you really fulfill the royal law according to the Scripture, “You shall love your neighbor as yourself,” you are doing well. (ESV)
Trust in the words of the reports that you hear about Jesus.
Believe he is good.
Believe he is gracious.
Believe he is merciful.
Believe that he is God’s Messiah — the Savior.
Believe that he has the power to forgive sins and give righteousness and eternal life to you through faith in him.
And, don’t let your immediate circumstances deter you from believing those truths.
Yes, everything Jesus and his people do and say doesn’t always line up with the words about Jesus that you have heard and believed, but know that there must be some explanation for that and that explanation will further reveal that Jesus is both good and gracious.
In this morning’s text, Jesus’ awkward silence was the beginning of the most good and gracious act of God — the saving of the entire world from the sin that separates us from God.
Today, and everyday, pray like the woman in this morning’s text prayed, saying:
“Yes, Lord, it is true. I am a sinner and unworthy of your grace. Nevertheless, you have promised forgiveness to sinner, and you came not to call the righteous but to save sinners.”
Today, you can cry out, “Have mercy on me, Lord, Son of David,” and confidently know from what the Bible tells us that God in his goodness and grace will answer and be merciful to your time of need.
This is the Word of God for you today.
This is the Grace of God for you today.
Amen.
Reverend Fred Scragg V.
August 9, 2026

